Was this the right thing to do?

well my story starts at fazolis after church. i was mad that my friend who is a girl (girl 1) didnt like me, so i thought making her jealous would make her like me more. this other girl (girl 2) who also goes to my church was also there in the booth behind me. so i decided to go flirt with her to make girl 1 jealous. i know that was a jerk move, but i let anger get the best of me. so by the end of the night, i actually started to get feelings for her (girl 2). so i liked her for about a few more weeks until i really got to know her. she was very clingy, she burps outloud (other guys might like that but i dont), she has the wierdest, loudest, most abnoxious laugh i ever heard (like when we were at steak and shake everybody was looking at her when she laughed), she is way to thin, basically she wasnt the type of girl i really wanted. so i started to just ignore her hoping that she would just forget about it and go away, but that seemed to make her like me even more. its been about a year now and she still likes me. she still tries to get close and still tries to flirt and i dont like her like that. i mean i guess most of this was my fault because stupidly i went along with it, i flirted back sometimes, we would do things like cuddle on the couch and stuff and i never put my foot down and was never serious about showing her that i was not interested. then things started getting worse. one day i get a text from her, but i NEVER gave her my number. i find out from my friend (girl 1, who i am not interested in anymore) that she (girl 2) asked her (girl 1) for it. so my friend (girl 1) gave it to her. i didnt want to text her but i texted back anyway. eventually i stopped texting her back, and she started to text me like two or three times a day. it got so bad that she even started texting my mom and asking her what i was doing. so i finally realized started to put my foot down, i started to ignore her in person and in text and i guess i was even mean to her a few times. she never seemed to get the message though. so one time after church at one of my dads friends from church house, my friend (girl one, who i am very close to friendship wise by this time) was laying on my lap and i putting her legs on my lap and stuff, and girl 2 also wanted to do things like that. so she thought it was ok to lean her head on my shoulder. i sorta shrugged and told her to get off, and she just gave me an ugly look, but didnt lean on my shoulder again. well a few minutes later she did it again, so i told her to just scoot over cause she was invading my space, and she said no in a very disgusted way, unfortanetly i didnt do anything about it. she still continued to text me asking why i did those things and still not getting the message. i told her that it is because i know her (girl 1) better as a friend so im not so worried about her getting feelings for me when i let her (still girl 1) do those things like lean on me and stuff. so she starts asking how long will she have to know me for that and other things like that. so i decided that she wont get the message so i told her i just want to be friends. well at another friend of my dads house, me and girl 2 were i guess you could say flirting again. the whole group of teens that were there all moved inside cause it was hot outside. all of the sudden i started to notice everyone was texting each other in the room. i looked over at one of my other friends who is a girl (girl 3) and she gave me a one of those looks that told me exactly what they were talking about, me. and guess who started it, girl 2. so girl 1 showed me a message that girl 2 sent to her. it said that if she (girl 2) backed off abit, then that would make me run to her instead. so i got mad that she still wasnt getting the message and told her off right there in front of everyone. that actually got her to stop texting me for a while, until my mom told me to apologize to her. so i did it by text, and thats all i wanted to do was apologize, but she wanted to "talk about us" and "ask me questions". so i did. we talked for a while and then she asked me why we never cuddle anymore and it made me uncomfortable, and i told her im not doing that anymore. she responds and says "lol oh ok i get it, you just dont want to do it when others are around", again she still doesnt get it. so i said goodbye and stopped texting her. well she started texting me agian during the week and i didnt respond. until sunday came and my girl 1 texted me telling me that girl 2 was texting her and asking her if i asked or said anything about her (girl 2). then i got a text from girl 2 yelling at me texting "we need to talk!". i got so annoyed that i just told her to leave me alone and stop texting me. i told her she was annoying me. then she called me a jerk and said how mean i was being. i told her to stop texting me again and eventually she did. she did tell me she just wanted to be friends but it was hard to tWas this the right thing to do?
Your jerk move was not flirting with girl #2, but in breaking up with her and not bothering to tell her. Man up and tell her it is over. A simple, "I like you but I don't see a future with you romantically" should work.



You may still have a chance with girl #1, but step one would be to make sure it is clear for everyone that it is over with girl #2.